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My # 1 Tip for Manifestation (and a mistake to avoid)

One of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to manifesting is leaving dreams and desires up to random chance. This isn’t how the most incredibly amazing things happen in our lives (even winning the lottery isn’t random, you have to actually buy a ticket).

When it comes to manifesting and creating the lives we dream of (and deserve!), there is one thing to know that just might be the difference between the people who dream and achieve, and the people who just dream.

The thing to know is this: The most important part of manifesting and making dreams a reality isn’t intention, thoughts, or gratitude (although all are a very important part). It’s highly targeted action steps.

Know what you want to create, design an action plan, and take laser-focused action with consistency until you make your vision a reality.

A few years ago, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting next to the wonderful Bob Proctor at a fundraising dinner. You may know him from the work he did inspiring millions around success, abundance, and the law of attraction (he was also in the movie The Secret). He’s truly missed, and I’m so grateful that his work and contributions continue to inspire. We had the best conversation about this exact topic.

I remember him looking around the room and saying to me, “Most of these people will never get to where they want to be. Because most just won’t do what it takes to make it happen. It’s that simple.” Mic drop. I remember thinking, “Okay, that’s it. I’m going to be a make-it-happen-person. No more random chance.”

After that, I never again approached any meaningful dream or goal without an action plan – and actually taking the steps. Have I failed? Yep! Hard. And, I’ve also succeeded so many times using similar formulas and approaches, along with frameworks I’ve developed to help me along my way (I love sharing these in my coaching, by the way).

Remember, it’s not, “If it’s meant to be it will happen.” It’s “If it’s meant to be, it will happen if you take the right actions to make it happen.”

And, the reality is that sometimes this also requires extremely hard work and dedication for an extended period of time. If your dreaming of spending some time on a white sandy beach (a regular dream for me! lol), just thinking about it won’t get you there, right? So, whatever your “beach” (aka dream) is, create your plan and get going.

Keep going. Be part of the small percentage of make-it-happen-people who are willing to do what it takes. You’ve got this. Life is working in your favor.

Love & happy manifesting,

Kristi

 

3 Ways to Improve Your Life Quickly

When it comes to growth and expanding our life, some of my favorite tools and strategies are the ones that don’t require a ton of effort (just small shifts) and have big payoff. I’m often asked about simple shifts even people who are busy or stressed (or both) can make to improve things. So, I thought I’d share three of my favorite shifts that, when made with intention, can have a huge positive impact on your life fairly quickly. 

1. Raise Your Standards.

What’s mediocre in your life? What has the energy of “tolerating”? Notice these things and decide not to settle for them anymore. Big or small. Three of my newer standards include higher quality sheets, 60+ grams of healthy protein per day, and higher quality conversations about positive, inspiring topics. Once something becomes a standard in your mindset and you stick to it, your entire life levels up.

Where can you raise your standards (and stick to them without apology)? When you elevate your standards to match the life you desire and deserve, you get to start living it NOW. How cool is that?

2. Keep Promises to Yourself.

Show up for YOU. When you make promises to yourself and keep them, you show your brain that you’re a person who follows through. This will inspire more confidence, bigger goals, and more great energy in your life. Make a positive promise to yourself today and vow to show up for it consistently. The results are powerful!

3. Make sure your choices are in alignment with the life you desire.

Using alignment as a foundation for choices and decisions is a game changer. It will inspire you to be more intentional and mindful about the things you’re doing in your life – big and small – from food choices to the people you spend time with. Start today and you’ll level up your life immediately.

Ask yourself before any choice or decision, “Is this in alignment with my goals and the life I’m creating?” The guidance you’ll receive from connecting with yourself like this is invaluable. 

These three strategies will give you nearly immediate (and long term) positive results and powerful momentum. Remember, you are worth the effort and deserve amazing things!

Love,

Kristi

P.S. If you haven’t yet, be sure you grab your access to my free video masterclass, 11 Habits of the Happiest People. It’s packed full of great tips, insights, and ideas for amplifying happiness, peace, success, and more. Let’s go! xo Access it here

The Power of Words to Change Our Life (+a gift!)

Did you know you can transform your life simply by re-shaping the words you use? Every single thing we say carries energy, re-enforces our thoughts, and affects the way we feel. It even affects our brain chemistry and nervous system. Basically, everything we say is an affirmation and carries power, and our bodies are listening. Words are a powerful tool when used to our advantage. Thinking of it this way can really motivate us to re-think the words we’re choosing in our life and make positive shifts.

Language can shape our thoughts, beliefs, relationships (anyone else’s Love Language Words of Affirmation?), feelings, our emotional wellbeing, and ultimately, the way we experience our life. When we really get this and put it into practice, we can turn managing our word choices into a superpower to elevate our life in the most amazing ways! (Look for a free download at the end of this post to help you get started using words to level-up your life).

The other day, for whatever reason, I woke up feeling like total crap. I was feeling down, grouchy, and just “off.” We all have days like this now and then, but having the tools to shift them can make a major difference. I decided to use the power of words and try to speak myself out of the funk. I got out of bed and challenged myself to make my next several statements positive ones about the day. “The sun is peeking out!” “I feel good this morning.” “I’m getting organized and ready for a good day.” “I’m grateful to have fresh flowers in the house.” Within minutes I felt so much better! My entire energy had changed and instead of continuing into my day swimming into a pool of blah and negativity, I’d created a positive shift and signaled my brain to go along for the ride!

I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of positive language, in my own life, in my coaching work, and in the lives of others. I even did a podcast episode that covers how words impact our life. Catch it here (there are some great word swap examples in this episode!).

Multiple studies have shown that the words we use can affect our stress levels, immune system, and even our physical health. When we replace unhelpful words, complaining, and negative self-talk with affirming words, we can reduce stress, create more peace, and create a better outlook on life. We can also use the power of words to help us attract incredible people, opportunities, and experiences like never before.

In addition to choosing different words to speak, we can also use words to get us focused on what we want to attract and create in our lives. To help you get started on this, I’ve included a free downloadable inspiration sheet below to help you go deep and discover the words that represent what you’d like to experience more of in your life. If you’d like, you can use this tool to help you choose a word of the year (or word of the day, month…whatever works for you). Having your own personal word of the year is a great way to stay focused on your true desires and top priorities. (Side note: this inspiration sheet is just one example of the library of super impactful content you’ll find within The Joy School, my exclusive coaching membership for next-leveling your life – it’s a game-changer!).

I hope this has inspired you to start practicing the superpower of using words to shape your life. The results you can create are truly amazing.

GIFTS FOR YOU: Print the Key Focus Words sheet below to help you start focusing on words that represent your desires and intentions. You can do this quick exercise any time to help you get focused, and to get clear on what your current priorities really are. It’s powerful and fun! I also encourage you to grab a piece of paper and write a list of 5 negative words you catch yourself using sometimes and which more positive words you can swap them out for. So good! And, be sure to also grab your access below to my video masterclass, 11 Habits of the Happiest People. It’s packed with great insights and tips. 

Let’s go new season! Let’s make it a great one together. xo

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4 Ways to Protect Your Energy and Peace This Holiday Season

The holiday season is a time of joy, friends, family, and simple pleasures. And, it can also be a time of overwhelm, stress, triggers, and never-ending to-do lists for many. It’s a time to step up prioritizing protection of our energy and peace. 

The great news is that we have so much power over how we create and experience the season if we set our intentions and boundaries in advance and stick to them (that’s the hard part, but worth it!). To get us all started, here are four of my favorite shifts to create more joy, feel great, and protect personal energy and peace during the holidays and beyond.

 

1. Prioritize your rest and self-care with next-level intention and purpose.

We should always be doing this if we’re on a path of creating our best life, but the holidays can throw our regular habits and routines way off track. Create a clear plan for yourself this season on what you want it to look like and how you want to feel, and then plan your days around those things. 

Say no to obligations and events that are not an absolute yes in your soul (resist temptation to say yes to every invite and over-schedule yourself). Don’t apologize for taking time to rest, relax, and recharge. If your soul is tired, you can’t shine or be the best version of you. You and the people you love deserve the version of you. Prioritizing your needs is the best way to show up as that person who is full of great energy, love, and joy. 

 

2. Choose a “small talk only” approach with difficult people + Examine your triggers.

One strategy for responding in ways that bring more peace and calm is to set an intention ahead of time to stick to small talk at work events, parties, or family gatherings where you know you may be triggered, or where you know negative or toxic people may be. This keeps things light and helps reduce the chance of conflict. Additionally, seek out more time at these gatherings with people you truly enjoy. This is not only a way to avoid conflict, but have more fun too!

Recently, I posted a quote on Instagram that really resonated…“The way you choose to respond to difficult people and situations plays an important role in determining the quality of your life.” Woah. Such power in that thought! 

It’s amazing news, actually, because when we take personal responsibility for the way we respond to people and situations, we remain in complete control and can be the conductor of calm and peace in most any situation. Use the mantra, “I choose peace,” if tempted to react harshly when you feel triggered. 

And, try taking a quiet look at exactly what made you feel triggered, because sometimes it’s an opportunity to realize that those feelings are actually your stuff, and not the other person at all. We all have our “stuff.” This can be both eye-opening and very positive, because taking responsibility for your triggers is a healing superpower that can be especially helpful during the holiday season. It truly can help bring you more peace, along with more compassion for yourself and room to grow.

 

3. Try choosing low alcohol cocktails or fancy mocktails. 

For people who do consume alcohol, the holidays can be a time of too much (and maybe a little regret?). But, the truth is that in excess, it’s a downer that can drain you of energy, cause brain fog, affect your sleep and has a long list of not-so-great negative health affects.

When you’re out at gatherings and parties, there are some simple and even fun ways to cut way back, or cut it out all together. The rising popularity of low alcohol cocktails and fancy mocktails (zero-alcohol cocktails) is a great trend I hope is here to stay. 

You can find all kinds of recipes online, or just order yourself a simple one at the bar (the simplest being a bubbly water in a pretty glass with a squeeze of lime). I like to cut both wine and champaign by making spritzers with half wine and half sparkling water – it tastes good and not only cuts the alcohol, cuts calories too. I also love a low-alcohol Aperol Spritz, which is lovely to look at, hydrating, and festive (my recipe is 2 ounces sparkling wine or Prosecco, 1/2 ounce Aperol, and 4 ounces sparkling mineral water, garnished with an orange slice). 

 

4. Focus your energies and intentions on planning for the New Year ahead.

One of my favorite feelings is the excitement and possibility that comes with fresh starts, the New Year being one of the biggest. I love journaling, writing down goals and dreams, and creating action plans for creating the year. I keep a paper calendar and planner, and I love filling in all the things to look forward to. 

Another way to get an extra boost and really dive into leveling up your life is to find a program or community designed to support you in achieving your goals and becoming the happiest and very best version of you. This is a big reason why I created my new coaching membership and community, The Joy School. It’s been called “a gym membership for the soul” and I love that concept! It really is a very special, unique, and supportive community. I invite you to check out all the details here. 

Warren Buffet said, “Invest in yourself as much as you can. You are your own biggest asset by far.” 

It’s so true that the best investment we can make is in ourselves. When I really got this and started investing more in myself (and less in stuff I really didn’t need), it was life-changing for me. The Joy School is the dream program I wish I’d had years ago. One designed to give you the coaching support, tools, frameworks, and sense of community with growth-minded people that it really takes to purposefully design a life to love. It’s my honor to lead it, and so far the members and I have been having a blast! Join us here

A Few of My Favorite Things – A JOYful Holiday Gift Guide

It’s the holiday season, and such a great time of year to focus on connection, love, joy, and COZY!

I know how time consuming it can be to look for thoughtful (reasonably priced!) gifts for all the people who bring magic to your life, so I thought I’d share a few of my very favorite ideas to give you an inspired head start.

I’ve put together this year’s JOYful Holiday Gift Guide in my Amazon store featuring some of my favorite gift ideas and great finds specifically chosen to support fun, joy, comfort, or ease in some way. You’ll find beautiful and cozy throws, the most comfortable slippers (including mine!), gift books, my favorite light therapy lamp to bring sunshine to gloomy days, kitchen goodies, a couple of great picks for kids, and all kinds of unique and thoughtful gifts. Most are under $50 and many are even under $20!

Each pick is something I either own or have purchased as a gift. Some of them are my go-to gifts for occasions all year! Shop the JOYful Holiday Gift Guide here.

I hope this holiday season brings you and your loved ones some much needed peace, joy, and connection.

And, if you haven’t already, be sure to tune in to The Joy School Podcast for all kinds of ideas on how to create more joy, peace, and success as we get ready to move into the new year.

Have a magical season! xo

Kristi

 

 

 

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How to Plan an Amazing Fall Season

Happy fall friends! I’ve loved the energy of new beginnings as long as I can remember. I find the start of each season to be a great time to look at and leave behind what’s no longer serving us (some things are just soooo last season!), and to create our intentions and goals for the months ahead.

On that note, I have a fantastic GIFT for you! I created a free inspirational Fall Goals & Intentions printable workbook to help you plan an amazing fall season, and you can DOWNLOAD IT INSTANTLY HERE – no email required. It’s my gift to you to celebrate the season!

Designing an amazing life takes regular planning, effort, growth, and reflection. It helps a great deal to have tools to help guide us toward the goals, clarity, and feelings we’d like to create. Taking time each season to clear space, write down goals and tasks, and feed our souls can make a huge difference in how we experience the months ahead.

The fall is a time to go within, reflect, savor, slow down a bit, and shed the things that are holding us back from being the best version of ourselves.

I hope you enjoy the workbook. I plan to work on mine over the next few days.

Sending you tons of love for the season ahead.

Cheers to a beautiful autumn!

With Joy,
Kristi

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