3 Things To Do When Everything Sucks

A sign outside of one of my favorite restaurants in Hawaii. Love this!

I can’t tell you how excited I am for fall.  It’s my favorite season!  There is something about the feeling in the air and the changing of the colors in nature that is so unbelievably inspiring to me.

Fall is usually a time when things in my life seem to be going really well.  But here’s the deal – many things haven’t been going my way lately.  Actually, there has been a lot of really negative shiz coming at me that I’ve been navigating and working to bounce back from.  Sometimes life doesn’t just throw you lemons, it throws you grenades. LOL

So – what to do when it seems like everything is crap?  How do you stay happy and healthy through it?  There are a number of tools and ideas that I use to help me during challenging times, and they make a tremendous difference!

Here’s one thing I know for sure:  When things don’t go your way, there will be another way… a better way.  It just may not be clear immediately.  The key is to trust, stay open, and love yourself through all of it.

Three things to do when it seems like everything sucks:

1)  Step in to big-time self care mode.  I’m talking amp it up in major ways!  We should always be in self-care and self-love mode, but when things get tough, extra self-care can make a huge difference for your health, happiness, and sanity.

So, don’t just schedule one yoga class, massage, or long walk in nature – schedule many!  Indulge without guilt.  Take a mental health day (trust me, the world will not end if you do this).  Take hot baths with salts, call friends who make you laugh, watch a favorite movie with a ginormous bowl of your favorite comfort food.  Focus your energy on treating yourself like the fabulous rock star that you are!  This will not only help you release anxiety and bounce back faster, it will also help you stay strong, positive, and productive through the storm.  How can you amp up your self care?

2) Go into super healthy eating mode.  What you eat has a tremendous impact on how you feel.  It affects your anxiety levels, happiness meter, and of course your physical and emotional energy.

I generally work to eat super healthy most all the time.  I’m all about greens, smoothies, and other healthy goodies.  But, I’m not always perfect in this area (and that’s ok!).  I sometimes like to indulge in stuff like coffee, dark chocolate, and (gulp) marshmallow bars from Starbucks (omg, they are so freakin yummy!).   However, when times get tough, I amp it up to compensate for the extra stress my mind and body is experiencing.

I hit the juice – green juice – big time.  I make sure not to miss my supplements, cut out sugar, and double up on the healthy salads and water with lemon.  This not only helps me stay healthier though the tough times, but it also gives me the great feeling of taking charge of something I CAN control, instead of focusing on the stuff I can’t.

3) Step outside of your regular zone.  Do something different.  It doesn’t have to be anything huge, dramatic, or requiring a ton of effort.  One of my favorite tools when I feel blue or stressed is to just jump up and dance around the room for a minute or two.  Blast some disco on Pandora and just jump around!  I smile the whole time and within a couple of minutes I feel like a new person!  This also works great for busting afternoon fatigue.

And, if you’re inspired, feel free to make it epic if that’s what’s calling you!  If you’ve got the energy and time, do something totally crazy!  Last week, I booked a last minute trip and spent 4 days in Waikiki.  I literally said “eff it!” — booked it, packed, and went.  I brought my laptop so I could work on the trip, and had a blast doing it.  Hawaii is one of my happy places, and I came back renewed, ready to face what was waiting.

Create a list of additional steps you can take to take the best possible care of yourself.  Not just when stress levels boil over, but all the time.  Then, when things are tough, kick it up!  Also, if you haven’t checked out my 3 S’s, read about this simple happiness tool here and add it to your routine.

Do you have tips on navigating and bouncing back from tough times?  Share them below.  Let me know what you think.  I’d love to hear from you!

Love & bliss,


Meet the Author

Kristi Ling

Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, internationally known life and business coach, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker who works with individuals and organizations on building a firm foundation for lasting happiness and success. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Woman’s Day, Oxygen, Entrepreneur, Mashable, Reader’s Digest, and Women’s Health. Her popular TEDx Talk on The Power of Re-Thinking Happiness has been shared across social media, and she has appeared as a keynote speaker for major companies and events. Her first book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss was chosen by Success Magazine as one of the best books of 2016 to make you successful. It’s available now wherever books and audiobooks are sold.

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  • warren Sep 24, 2012, 10:55 pm

    So perfect! May I add: exercise with mindfulness. I’ll do a 2.5 hour run and feel so much better!

  • Mayra McCullough Sep 25, 2012, 12:27 am

    This came at such a perfect time! Thank you! I’m taking a mental health day tomorrow!! One thing I must say about doing something different and stepping out of your comfort zone….I did that yesterday and I learned a ton from it!! I invited a bunch of friends who are musicians to have a jam session in my house. I have been known to have moments in playing percussion where I go to Africa and back! I mean I’ve had jam sessions from heaven! I haven’t played in a couple of years. Well, as I began to play and noticed everyone was counting on my beat to groove along…I froze! Not one solid groove was coming out!! My dear friend came and whispered in my ear: “Mayra. you’ve done this before, you can do this, is in you, let go of fear…” I knew what he was saying was so true and even though I really couldn’t break through last night, I was left with a wonderful lesson I’m believe I’m ready to take on right now: If I don’t chose to look at that fear straight on the face right now I will miss a lot of wonderful opportunities to let my gifts bless others as well as myself. So, getting out of my comfort zone will not bring comfort to my ‘days where everything sucks’ (I’ll do the health day for that!) but it will help me face those things I refuse to every once in a while! And boy, do I need that!!
    Thank you Kristi!!!!

  • Christina Hagewiesche Sep 25, 2012, 1:30 pm

    Thank you thank you thank you – came to me at the perfect time!