Relationships and Life: Here’s the Likely Answer When You Feel Like Something’s Missing

Posted on Mar 8, 2012 in Bliss News

“Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation.” This is an idea from A Course in Miracles that I’m breathing in this week, and have numerous times before. It is a powerful truth that can be challenging to accept because it shows us that we must look at what we are not offering in any situation, and that we must take responsibility. That in fact, what we give more of is what we will receive more of in return.

For me, this concept is a reminder to always see things from a place of love.  It’s a reminder to give even more love, and to be love. This creates big shifts in perception that result in miracles.  It also prompts me to turn inward when looking to fill what’s missing in any situation. The answer, and the call to action, is always right there.

This idea is the core place from which to examine any area of our life that we feel is lacking, especially in relationships.  It will always offer the answer we seek when asking how we can improve a situation.  In any relationship, if we want more understanding, we must be more understanding.  If we want more love, we must give more love and be more loving.  If we’re looking for more joy and laughter, we must be joy and shine our light to bring laughter to others.  And the list goes on.

When I look back on my life at some of the relationships that crashed and burned or endured tremendous challenges, I now see many of those situations so much more clearly.  How could I expect someone to give it their all when there were parts of me that I wasn’t making available?  How could I expect someone to let their walls come down when I myself had concrete walls in place?  How could I expect someone to open up to feeling complete love for me when I myself was allowing fear to hold me back from fully expressing my love? I was often frustrated; feeling like a person wasn’t being open to evolving a relationship when the truth was, it was me who wasn’t open.  I wasn’t being what I was I was seeking.

This is not to say that every single relationship has the potential to be healthy or right.  What every relationship is, however, is an opportunity to learn and grow.  In toxic or abusive situation, the part that is lacking may be the fact that the relationship needs to come to an end, but is still ongoing.  Therefore, the what more can I give becomes the act of letting go.  Walking away actually becomes an act of love, as does forgiving and viewing the other person with compassion.

So, I invite you to join me in asking this powerful question when facing a challenge, struggle, or seeking a solution in any situation.  “What more can I give?”  Then be open to allowing your inner voice to share the honest truth with you.  Be willing to take responsibility for that which you’re not giving, and then open up to giving freely with all your heart.  Being willing to do this has changed so much for me, and will continue to do so.  It can transform, grow, and even save relationships, and it can definitely create big time growth within you.

Give, take ownership, and shift the way you’re viewing the situation. Be willing to go within and then step outside your comfort zone in order to create true, miraculous change.  This is where it all begins.

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  1. Hello! I just read your article and was intrigued and inspired, although I have a question about giving..I am in a relationship and I feel like something is missing from my partner as if I am not making her completely happy or as though she may be elsewhere mentally.. In these situations I give all of myself and love with all my heart but I feel like I am being pushed away. When the situation is brought up my partner says that she is doing all the best that she can do and loves me back. What do you think should be given in this situation or what might I take ownership for?

    I really appreciate it!
    Regards
    David

    • Thank you David! Feel free to email me directly on the contact page and I’ll be happy to send you some thoughts and resources. Love ~ Kristi

  2. In my relationship. There is trust issues. I’ve got my boyfriend who I’ve been living with for 2 years now texting and flirting with women. He makes up this profiles on single cites and I’ve got him numerous times. I’ve always forgiving him but has never left him. Now, things have been getting worst. Everytime I see him on his phone I think he is talking to another women. I don’t know how to overcome this? I say something and we just end up fighting.what do I do? I still care and love him. I just don’t know if I will ever trust him again. Everything is fine when he is not on his phone tho….