I’m a big fan of lists. I love them. Something about writing things down helps to re-enforce things in our minds, and putting things on paper just makes them a little more…electric. Did you create a list of goals or resolutions at the beginning of this year? I did, and so far, so good! But, this year I realized there is another very important, empowering list we all need that most of us are forgetting to create. A list that can help us stay on track with happiness, stay connected to our inner-voice, and help compel us to create our dream life.
A list of the things that light up your soul.
Why is this so important? Because it’s super easy to get so focused on achieving goals and routines of everyday life that we forget to deliberately incorporate the things that really light us up, support our happiness, and drive our inspiration. And, because spending time turning inward and tapping into our hearts can lead to new discoveries about our passions, what’s really important, and how we can better invite the things that truly bring us joy into our lives more often.
Any time we’re creating a list of goals, we should also be creating a list of the things that light us up and fill our souls with bliss. You can even compare the two lists to see what connects to what, adding even more fuel and clarity to your plan.
Personally, I love lists of ten. I create them all the time. This just seems like a doable number to me. Not overdone or underdone. But, sometimes just listing for as long as the ideas flow can be awesome too.
To help you get started, I thought I’d share my current list of ten things that light me up right now. They’re big and small. Simple and complex. And, to me, they’re all a “Hell yes!”
Stand up paddleboarding
Snorkeling and free diving
Helping others to think about and approach happiness in new ways
Deep, soulful conversations with friends and family
Gardening, fresh flowers, and growing my own food
Great music (especially live)
Ready? Grab a pen, find a quiet spot, connect to your heart, and create your list of things that really, truly light up your soul. Your own bliss list. You might be surprised at what appears on it. Let your heart speak through your pen. I suggest handwriting for sure, especially if you use cursive writing, because it stimulates the brain in ways that help with comprehension and focus. Plus, it’s just a soulful break from anything electronic, and we need as many of those as we can get.
Create and re-create this list often. Keep it where you can see it every day. Think of it as a heart-centered meditation, an action plan, and a to-do list all in one. Of all of our lists, the list of what truly lights us up and fills us with awe in this life is the most powerful and significant of all.
Feel free to share some of the things you’ll be adding to your list below – I’d love to hear them!
Much love & bliss,
Hi Dear Friends! Happy, happy 2015! I’ve made a video for you where I share my #1 tip and theme for a fantastic, happy, successful 2015: Think bigger! Click on the image below to view the video and hear why I’m going to think bigger in 2015, and how you can too. Trust me, this will get you thinking:
Wishing you an amazing, sparkling holiday! Thank you so much for being a part of my 2014. I’m SO grateful for you! I can’t wait to share some awesome stuff with you in the coming year. If you don’t have my free Empower Your Day eBook & Three Keys for Incredible Lasting Happiness audio class, be sure to download them to the right of this page – they’re my gifts to you and a great way to start the year!
Much love & New Year light,
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Hi Friends! I’m sharing how I live on purpose by answering a few questions from my inspiring friend Dr. Danielle Dowling in support of her new book The Soul Sessions, a 5-week guide to crafting greater joy and making big things happen. Get a wee, free sample here! Here we go! …
Q: How do you let go of the chase for perfection?
KL: Long ago, I was able to let go of chasing perfection by changing my perspective on what perfection actually is. Sometimes it’s just that things worked out in spite of bumps in the road – things working out, no matter how, is always perfection. Sometimes perfection is the lessons I learn when things don’t go the way I’d hoped they would. What could be more perfect than learning and growing? Embracing imperfection and changing the way we look at perfection makes all the difference.
Q: How do you pinpoint what isn’t working?
KL: You really have to be consciously and deliberately in tune with yourself to be regularly pinpointing what isn’t working so you can create shifts, large and small, to keep you on the path to your best life. When I was much younger, I didn’t pay nearly enough attention to what I was tolerating in my life, and therefore, was living in a stressed out state of constantly having my energy drained and feeling frustrated. When I started looking carefully at what wasn’t working for me (even the small stuff), and making changes accordingly, my life opened up in amazing ways. One of my missions now is to always be mindfully “cleaning out my emotional closet” to make room for fabulous new things.
Q: How do you know when you’ve “arrived” or finally “made it happen?”
KL: I’m always celebrating. Small victories, big accomplishments, and even just the everyday. To me, waking up in the morning is “arriving.” Every morning is a chance to create fantastic things. Another big thing for me that tells me I’m on the right path is when I receive emails, comments, or posts from people who read my blog or take part in one of my courses telling me that something I shared made a difference for them. This is like rocket fuel for me! It’s why I do what I do. When I know that something I’ve said or written has helped one person, that’s the ultimate feeling of “making it happen.”
Thanks to my friend, Dr. Danielle Dowling, for these great questions! I invite you to share how you live on purpose in the comments below. And, be sure to check out Danielle’s new book, The Soul Sessions, a 5-week guide to crafting greater joy and making big things happen. You can snap up a free sample here!
If I could share just one thing with the world about happiness, this would be it. If you’ve struggled in your life with creating sustainable, lasting happiness, this is for you, and it’s very important…
Happiness is many things – a mindset, a choice, a feeling – but the MOST important thing to know about happiness – and the little known missing link – is that happiness is a SKILL.
When you embrace happiness as a skill that you can learn to do, practice, and become good at… just like learning to play a musical instrument or speaking a new language… everything changes!
Consciously practice happiness every single day by deliberately re-focusing on positive thinking, doing the things that bring you joy, creating healthy happiness habits, practicing self-love, and taking ridiculously good care of your precious mind, body, and spirit.
Research, try different things, discover what supports your happiness — and regularly invite more of THAT into your life on purpose. Make it your top priority. Work at it like you would work at learning a challenging new computer application. Do this with great effort EVERY DAY – mindfully and deliberately DO happiness – and after a while, it will become part of you. Your natural state. Suddenly, you’ll find that you’re fluent in happiness! And, your life will be forever changed.
It may take weeks for you, and it may take months or even longer. Don’t give up, everyone is different. You’ll feel the shift when it happens. If you stick to it and don’t stop – you will literally re-program your brain, your actions, and your cells to naturally live in a state of cultivating happiness and inner-peace.
This doesn’t mean that you won’t experience difficult times in life, everyone does, but it does mean that you’ll be regularly living in a natural state of happiness, and the skills you develop to live in that new happy state will also support you through the hard times too. Everything becomes easier, more light filled, and more doable.
Happiness is the required skill for living our very best life that they forgot to teach us in school.
Are you ready to learn, practice, and master the SKILL of happiness? Let’s go!
xo Love, Kristi
P.S. - Be sure to download my free happiness audio & eBook on the right side of this page – they’ll get you started! And, you’ll be the first to know about my upcoming 4-week eCourse, Happiness Bootcamp!
Hi Amazing Friends!
Hope you’re enjoying this beautiful fall season so far! I’m loving it! And, I’ve just been inspired to share with you one of my personal secrets for creating more peace, focus, and clarity in my life – rituals.
Rituals (many I’ve made up or customized just for me) have been a powerful, supportive part of my life for a long time. One of my faves is going to the beach, writing a word in the sand that represents something I would like to release, and letting the waves wash over the word until it disappears. So cleansing!
Rituals are used by all kinds of successful people to deal with the craziness of their lives, and to create balance and inspiration. You may even have some of your own.
For me, this is an area of my life I’d like to expand this season. There’s an awesome new book I’ll be reading called Your Hidden Riches – Unleashing the Power of Ritual to Create a Life of Meaning and Purpose. It’s written by the NY Times bestselling authors of The Passion Test, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood, and has been praised by Paulo Coelho, Jack Canfield, Don Miguel Ruiz & many other wonderful people!
I just ordered mine today and am excited to expand this part of my life. Want to join me? You can get yours here (plus, it comes with some awesome bonus gifts you’ll love!)
Chris and Janet say they’re not talking about empty rituals (like rushing through grace to get to dinner). They say rituals are behaviors and actions we consciously infuse with meaning, and that ritual can be a powerful conduit to a life filled with deeper meaning and contentment. I totally agree! Some rituals have been amazingly transformative for me.
This is a book you’ll not only enjoy reading, but you’ll come back to it again and again because it’s filled with practical rituals for every area of your life.
I’ve seen Janet and Chris speak on several occasions and their teachings have meant a great deal to me. Their wisdom is moving and practical. I’m excited to read their new book and super happy to share it with you!
There’s never a better time than right now to take steps toward transforming your life into exactly what you want it to be.
Love & happy adventures,
P.S. – If you order yours now, you’ll be reading it at the same time I am. I’d love to hear your thoughts – just reply to this email to reach me!
Much of the way we experience our day comes from what we expect of it. Expect amazing things today and it will be. Expect a bad day and that’s pretty much what you’ll get. It’s pretty simple.
A while back, I took a day off to go paddleboarding in Malibu. It was totally delicious. The water was gorgeous, the sun was shining, and a pod of dolphins swam by. I had looked forward to this for days.
I can tell you for sure that one thing that helped make it so great was that I expected it to be! In the days leading it up to going, I was making statements (affirmations, really) like, “I’m going paddleboarding on Thursday. It’s going to be amazing!”
I grew up with a major fear of the ocean. I wouldn’t even go in past my knees. For a Southern California girl, you can imagine this might be a bit of an issue. Years ago, I finally set my mind to overcoming the fear, and now I’m passionate about water sports. I snorkel, free dive, surf, and swim. Anywhere in or near the ocean is a very happy place for me! But, to be honest, there is still a sneaky little voice inside of me that will creep in and stir up anxiety when I’m faced with going into the open ocean far from the shore.
Before my day off for paddleboarding in Malibu, that annoying little voice was tempting me to make statements like, “I’m a little nervous I might fall in,” or “Going that far from the shore can be scary.” I guarantee if that were the mindset I’d been in prior to hitting the water, it would have drastically changed my experience. But, I chose to ignore those negative, limiting thoughts and instead chose to expect a fantastic experience. And it was.
Our expectations for the day usually begin in the morning. When you wake up, be conscious about the statements you’re making and the thoughts you’re choosing about the day ahead. If you’re thinking, “That marketing meeting this afternoon is going to suck big time,” you’re not only setting yourself up for a negative experience, you’re also putting out low vibrations that affect other aspects of life too. Changing your outlook and expectations can literally change what you experience. And, aligning your expectations with your positive intentions gives you that much more momentum.
This isn’t to say that everything will always turn out the way we expect it to. That would be boring! It’s also not to say that having powerful, positive expectations will never lead to disappointment. That happens sometimes, and there are always lessons to be received there. This is just to say that our expectations play a huge role in shaping the way we live – the richness, the light, the growth, and the joy.
So, when it comes to creating a fantastic life, be sure to add setting high-quality, positive expectations to your happiness toolbox. It’s a powerful thing to expect awesomeness. To Expect fantastic experiences. Expect an amazing, delicious, joyful life and it will be.
Hi Friends! In my latest podcast episode, I talk about what I feel is the missing link to happiness, and how you can use this as the key to creating major positive change in your life. I also chat about getting to know and love the new you after a loss, time of transition, or major life change. It can be empowering!
And – great news! In addition to iTunes, my podcast is now available on Clear Channel’s iHeartRadio! Download the app and listen right from your phone. You can also listen in the box below.
Thanks to all of you for listening and for the great feedback! Another new episode will be out later this week.
Enjoy & much love,