I believe we are born naturally loving ourselves. Then, a panoply of various circumstances and experiences compound over the years, providing fertile ground for our egos to collaborate with those past mistakes and unfavorable experiences to condition us otherwise.
It then becomes our job to keep our egos in check and teach them how to use the wisdom gained from past experiences for our own benefit, rather than twisting it into (invalid) reasons for beating ourselves up.
When we learn to make truly loving ourselves an integral part of our lives, we live in a way that naturally attracts amazing things.
Try these three simple steps to loving yourself more:
1. Treat your body, mind, and spirit like they belong to someone you love deeply.
Have you ever heard the saying that if we treated our friends the way we treat ourselves, we wouldn’t have any friends? Kind of funny, I know—but also eye-opening. Treat yourself with love, kindness, and compassion like you are your very best friend in the world—like you are the hero of your life. Because you are.
2. Start consciously seeing even the smallest acts of self-care as acts of self-love.
The more you link taking care of yourself and doing things you enjoy to loving yourself, the more you’ll see that love grow, and the more you’ll find it showing up. Whenever you do what you love to do or take good care of yourself, make a habit of tuning in to feel in your bones how much you deserve this loving treatment. Allow those feelings to grow and be present within you.
Here’s another thing that goes along with this: Begin to see saying yes to what others offer to do for you as an act of self-love. So often we tend to be overly self-sufficient, saying “Thanks, I’m good” when people offer to help us out. Begin to catch yourself turning down offers of help and then reprogram your mind to say, “Yes! Thank you! (Because I love myself and I deserve help.)” You’ll not only feel less frazzled and overwhelmed, you’ll also begin to feel more loved—by yourself and others. Receive. It’s awesome!
3. Know what a magnificent miracle you are. Truly!
One of the things that will really crack open your heart to loving yourself fully is to really take the time to ponder what an incredible, amazing miracle you are (that we all are). Did you know you are literally made of stardust? Our bodies (and about everything else on earth) are made up of certain elements (carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, etc.), and most of the elements on earth originated from within the center of a star. How amazing is that when you really think about it? We are connected with all things—physically and energetically part of the vastness of the universe.
Our bodies are vehicles for our souls. Just like our bodies, our souls are who we truly are, and they are beautiful miracles here to learn, grow, and serve. You are a soul, residing within an incredible vessel, here to live the human experience. Everything you’ve gone through, every victory and every mistake, is part of that experience and was there to guide you in your journey and to your purpose.
We are all one with all things. Each of us deserves infinite love, and part of our purpose is to receive this love. We can honor this life we’ve been gifted by embracing that purpose through truly loving ourselves.
* Article adapted from my new book Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss (Rodale Books). A version of this article also ran on Rodale Wellness.Read More
This week I was invited to visit the team at San Diego Living on The CW Channel 6 in San Diego to talk happiness tips, Operation Happiness, and healthy snacks that boost our joy. You can catch the segment here.
Happiness expands when we’re willing to take action to create it. There was a time in my life when I thought happiness was just supposed to happen to me. I thought it would come from the next accomplishment, new outfit, or relationship. My life changed when I took responsibility for my own happiness, and then through my efforts to create it, discovered something amazing: Happiness is not just a choice or a feeling, it’s actually a skill that we can learn and become good at!
When I realized that I’d simply never learned how to be happy, and started approaching it as a skill and an activity I needed to practice, that’s when life opened up in incredible ways. I began discovering and implementing all the elements that make up sustainable happiness and created a new, light-filled way of living.
I share all those elements, along with personal stories from my own journey, as well as powerful tools and happiness habits in my new book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss. It’s out this week and I’m so excited to share it with you!
Enjoy the TV segment (I definitely had a blast) & be sure to let me know what you think of Operation Happiness!
Tons of Love & radical bliss,
Hi Amazing Friends! Excited to share the official book trailer for Operation Happiness! And, I just added new gifts to the bundle of free bonus gifts you receive when you pre-order! See the trailer below and then head on over to operationhappinessbook.com to reserve your copy & claim your gifts. Let me know what you think of the book trailer in the comments below (and feel free to share)! Much Love, Kristi xoRead More
Happy New Year Amazing Friends!
One of the things I’m doing this year is fine-tuning and focusing on the super positive relationships in my life. My plan is to start spending more heart-centered, quality time with the people who lift me up and inspire me to be my best.
The people we spend the most time with have more influence on our lives than we can imagine. Hanging with a tribe of positive, joyful go-getters who lift you up and support your dreams is one of the keys to living your happiest, most dynamic life. In this video, I share a quick tip on creating and cultivating those relationships this year.
Wishing you all an incredible year! Don’t forget, my brand new book, Operation Happiness – The Three-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss, is now out for pre-order! You can reserve your copy (and receive a big bundle of inspiring bonus gifts!) right here.
Much Love, Energy, & Bliss in 2016!
xo KristiRead More
Hi Friends! Excited to announce that my new book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss, is available for pre-order! Find it here – woot!
When you pre-order, you’ll receive a big bundle of inspiring thank you gifts to help you create your most amazing year ever in 2016!
This book is a download straight from my heart, and I’m so excited to share it with you. In it, I share my story, as well as incredibly powerful tools, mindsets, and techniques for creating and living your happiest, most dynamic life. Read more about it and pre-order your copy here.
Love & radical bliss,
xo KristiRead More
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about the power of gratitude. I’ve been giving a lot of talks lately, and the more I speak about gratitude, the more I realize how much I believe in its power – like down in my cells.
As a kid, pretty much the only time I thought about being thankful was on Thanksgiving. As I got older, I graduated to realizing how important it is to be regularly grateful for all my blessings. Then, years later, after I’d crashed and burned painfully a few times at a few different things, I developed the inner-knowing that true gratitude is in being grateful for absolutely everything. All of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly. As hard as it is. All experiences serve us purpose, and all are teachers that guide us on our path.
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the gratitude I feel for being imperfect. It may sound strange, but when we not only embrace our imperfections – but feel GRATEFUL for them – they magically turn into this super powered energy of self-acceptance and self-love.
It’s an incredible transformation – to deeply see our own imperfections as part of our beauty – part of what actually makes us the kind of perfect we’re meant to be – flawed beings who learn, grow, and blossom through being unique, imperfect, and wonderfully human.
Friends, I just want to tell you, right now and always, how amazingly beautiful you are.
P.S. – I’ll be making a big announcement about this soon, but I wanted my blog readers to be the first to know that my new book, Operation Happiness – The 3 Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss, is available for pre-order! Woot! Be sure to save your receipt #, as I’ll be sending some great gifts out in my newsletter later this month to all who pre-order! Reserve your copy here. xoRead More